Q: why do people like attention?
A: because they want to prove to others what they can do.
(via brokenaccidentalstars)
They say, people are getting better.
People are okay.
But I can only say that none of this is okay.
The world is not okay.
And I’m no better then anyone else,
I’m looking for answers.
Stumbling around in the dark,
Curling up like a question mark
Because I don’t know what to do.
But I know you have to care about the world
Because it doesn’t care about you.
—Shane Koyczan - People Are Getting Better
There are decisions we have to make. A lot of them. Our lives are based on them.
First, you decide, “What am I going to eat for breakfast today?” And then, “What am I going to wear?”. And then, “How am I going to suck up to my boss today?”. Eventually you think about the future - “How am I going to make a living?” and “How will I make it out alive during 2012 - by rocketship or a time machine?”
There are also the little things - “Should I kiss her/him or should I not?”; “Do I raise my hand or not?”; “Will I donate a dollar to Salvation Army or use it to buy myself candy?”; “Should I get Trojan or Durex?”
You think about the consequences and benefits for each option. Whatever outweighs the other, you choose. Or if the consequence is the worse, you don’t choose that one.
Do you realize, though, that maybe some decisions we make are just merely safe ones? All we want is to not feel regret… to think, “Wow thank god I didn’t choose that other option!”… to move along with life and get ready for other deciding games.
Say the decision you have to make is whether to kiss the person you like or not. If you don’t, you save yourself from possible humiliation and shame. If you do, that person might respond well and you guys might be the ones to make each other happy and loved and it could be the best decision you’ve ever made. However, if you don’t, you might take away that possibility. And if you do, you might get humiliated and ashamed. For some reason, even though taking the risk and doing it might seem a whole lot better than option b, a lot of us play it safe. It’s only because we’re afraid. We make bad decisions due to fear. Fear is what saves us from a lot of things but it’s also what holds us back from what we want. From what we want to eat for breakfast to who you want to be in the future. Decisions big or small, it will affect who you are and who you will be and your whole life for that matter.
The worse thing to hear and/or say to yourself is, “You shouldn’t have done that” or “You should’ve done this instead”. That makes you regret and makes you develop self-doubt and shame. But for fuck’s sake, stop saying that because what does it accomplish other than regret and doubt? Honestly, who will it benefit? You’re only making yourself or the person you said it to feel worse. There’s no point.
So I say, instead, after you make a decision, be it kissing someone or making a baby or whatever… go, “Fuck yeah I took a risk and I don’t regret it at all.” Even if it ends up being a mistake. But even mistakes don’t have to be regrets. Mistakes are just stepping stones to success. You learn from every decision you make and that’s what outweighs the choice of being safe. Every experience molds who you are today. Fear is just a stupid ghost trying to make you hide under the covers. But you honestly can’t hide forever.
Just tell yourself: It’s worth it. Take the damn risk.
I’m restless
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Death Cab For Cutie- Passenger Seat | Album : Transatlanticism
